That's why it's important to do the things that make you happy, such as hobbies, movies, great food - whatever floats your boat. The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. I am starving and not allowed to eat so I order him out of the room. She said she would kill me if i left or fainted so, yeah, i was there for her..lol, I wouldve called my nurse in and asked her to slap him! And that I hadnt eaten dinner and was starving. I went into labor at 10:30am Saturday morning and, this being my first child, I didnt know it. And then figured hed take care of some business while he was on the line. Whats worse is that his parents brought him back to the hospital drunk as a skunk. I thought that was all obvious to DH but apparently I was wrong. When I was in labor with our son my wife was AMAZING, a true hero. Im straight, but if I ever go into labor Ill probably wish I had a wife. In addition, you should also come up with a list of goals that you want to achieve as a couple once you are done with treatment so that you can lead a more productive and happy life together. Youve got to be kidding me?! The dream doesn't end, and that's when I start to be afraid. The husband was just getting off work when we found out I needed the surgery (4 weeks early with twins). Its not a movie wherein things change quickly. First, would he normally drive after 5 drinks? In my hospital bed. My nurse thought he had the flu. He came back to the hospital with a thong. Its not that hard.. That first night, my husbands parents took him to eat a fancy steak dinner while I was stuck in the hospital eating cafeteria food and playing hostess to15 or so unannounced visitors who all showed up at the same time. At 9 am, contractions really kicked in and still no hubby. Don't take anything personally. You'd like to get my newsletter! That is almost word for word what happened to me.except that I didnt push mine outI had an emergency c-section, so I had to push a wheelchair very slowly down the hall to get to the nicu to nurse because I couldnt walk without support, and I couldnt make the wheelchair go on my own while sitting in it. My husband made the list! Mortifying. Yep, I was 8.5 cm when we checked in to the hospital). He didn't drink for the majority of my pregnancy, but then went out to a work function and came home wasted (he was driven home by a coworker). She told you how big he was going to be. After our daughter was born he I know you don't want to hear this, but you really need to read up on alcoholism. So, instead of trying to take control of everything, just wait for them to accept that they have a problem and need help. 5 drinks a night sounds like a problem bigger than just worrying about having a sober ride to the hospital. It scream youth and ignorance. (I don't think he would like that job much!). You would really benefit from an Al-Anon meeting or two. When they called my room at 3 am to go nurse her, my husband declined to go with me because he was just so tired after everything that happened that day. He cracked jokes the entire time, including asking my medical team (all women in masks) what they were making in woodshop. Telling my sister that if we needed her, to call the house where he would be at and someone would give him a message, since he didnt think the baby would be born for quite a while. When in labor, every woman becomes bitchy for the reason that she is in tremendous pain, moron! I had read a list of what to pack on a baby website. Soon enough he gets a call from his mother asking how the delivery is going. This behavior will shorten his lifespan, increase his odds of developing certain types of cancers, raise his weight, sap his energy, and generally make things miserable. 28 Examples of Crap Husbands Pull While Their Wives are in Labor. Hes pretty lucky the epidural finally kicked in halfway through their lunch date! My husband has already been given the expectation that the next couple weeks he can't drink all that much (not like he does normally, but he is trying to plan a guy's night this . The next few hours are a blur but my husband keeps having to leave to use the bathroom. Into the car it went. Im sorry if you do not want to hear this but someone has got to say it instead of ignoring it. However, we did talk about it; and he truthfully would have been so embarrassed to call and ask his mom (or my parents) to drive me to the hospital if need be, because he wouldn't feel comfortable driving. You might also explain that it's his baby too, he may want to remember the event. Im sure his parents saw far more than they ever hoped to see, and Ive never let him live it down. (this part was planned, hospital rule, only 2 in the delivery room besides the mom- so her mom and I attended) I was mentally exhausted by the time the baby was born at 6:44 pm. However, Phil and I are pretty much the masters of the silent fight. Get weekly updates on baby and your body. SEARCH PARTIES. This message, when put right, will force them to be in their best mood despite being overly drunk. This isnt a birth story, but rather sadder. Sexuality has nothing to do with a persons character or supportiveness. From what you've posted, your H has a serious problem. After our first they were sewing me up from some tearing. -Lucy, About 30 minutes after our son was born (a full 24 hours of labor) my husband told me he was going to head home for a bit because he was exhausted. -Carrie, After I finally agreed to an epidural, the nurse explained that it would feel like a quick little bee sting. However, if you are determined to recover from it and stay sober, you can do it as long as you stay strong and focused. Your H has a serious drinking problem, you enable him, you are having a baby who will be left alone with this man, and all you are worried about is getting to the hospital? Sandals and flip flops are not recommended, especially if a situation arises where you may have to go into an operating room. Well, watched is a bit strong, but it was on the entire time! Some women experience other symptoms of labor with a bloody show: Cramping: You may feel period-like cramps that come and go over the course of hours or even days. Here is a picture of him, having a little lie down with Jack about 20 minutes after he was born. Unless yo ass is imoan. I write about that struggle & stuff. I had our birth center bag ready. At first he acted like I was over reacting but later apologized and agreed with me. LOL, you sound like my wifes ex. They might have difficulties controlling their emotions and be prone to anger or violent behavior when drunk. "I finally snapped and said that I wasn't going to name my child an ugly name that I don't like for the sake of a woman that doesn't even like me," she writes. So, that's the fvcked up part. While have contractions at home with my 1st child ( it was around 6pm and my contractions were coming every 5min) my husband called up to me from down stairs (I was on all 4s at this point) asking if I was hungry and he was going to order an Indian take-away. Amen. It was her birthday and 12 days from her due date, her hubby had a few drinks and she went to the bathroom and her water broke. My husband told me to breathe. I think I'm always stopping to prepare for the recipients reaction. It was one of the biggest events in . If at all possible, secure a back-up. Nothing until we got home. When a child is born, act up, misbehaves, it is still our child. He said hed save me a few slices for later. I have pictures to prove it. I sincerely wish you luck this will not be an easy road, but I hope you both find the strength you need for the sake of your baby. I push for over two hours and my daughter was born at 6:55 am. He was drinking coffee, eating breakfast and taking care of the dogs because they were going to be caged up all day. How long has it been since you had a drink? (Hopefully it won't have to go there but if the nice and logical angle doens't work you may have to come on a little strong) IMO. The longer you hide your head in the sand the bigger the issue will get. I almost left the house to officiate a HS basketball game (scrimmage) when she was in labor. of theirs under any circumstances. Holy fuuk. When they were out (it was 2am after all), HE WAITED FOR THEM TO BREW A FRESH POT. Both those incidents still come up at family get togethers. My first child was early and I had a long hard 19 hour labor. My husband took nearly two hours to have lunch with his mom at the hospital, after he had been helping me through contractions all morning. Since I had to have a c-section he stayed in the hospital with me the 3 days sleeping on the couch and changed ALL the diapers. I shoot him a look and he says oh, I thought you would drive. I was 7cm dilated when they checked me in. This is not going to change after the baby is born, he has made that clear. I tell her I need to go home. at around 11 pm when i started to vomit and asked if we should probably get to the hospital he said are you sure this time? These are all way worse than mine, but my husband insisted that my then 19 hours of labor was not *real* labor because my contractions were not evenly spaced apart like the book says and did not think it was necessary for me to go to the hospital when I could no longer stand the pain. Once labor begins, it can take between 10 to 24 hours (or more) to progress through the three stages of labor before your baby is born. I'm so sorry that you are going through this, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Just have a back-up plan ready so you don't need to stress about himmaybe a family member lives close by? Jackass. He slept it off too long, that should be the only issue, nit that he ate. 7 min read. Apparently i was keeeping him awake. Mum had gone in to hospital and he was working. A simple rule for when to go to the hospital for labor is the 5-1-1 rule. Labor was a piece of cake until they broke my bag of waters. We got to the hospital at 5 pm. She gets anxiety from any surgery, so her anxiety was high. I was in labor (induced) for 48 hours while my husband was uncomfortable in his chair and feeling nauseous from a sandwich he ate. When he finally woke up to go pee, I asked him for some ice chips and he told me he was tired and was just going to go back to sleep. My hubby has a habit of drinking a lot (over 5 drinks in an evening) after a rough day at work, and I'm worried I'll go into labor, and he'll be extremely buzzed. This is why it is important for you to encourage him to seek professional help for alcohol addiction treatment if he seems hesitant to do so. Remember, youre not to be blamed for their habit. I want to know how old the OP and her H are as well as the ages of some of the responders who are so sure their H's will slow down the boozehound behavior closer to their edds. I am so thankful and blessed I dont have a story to share like this. Look at some of the comments and then talk about stupid. So, there will be relapses in the process, but you should keep on trying. I cleaned the house again. john draper journalist, creative prayer service for teachers, ,